Mary, the exemplar of widows

by May Tam
Thirty-second Sunday in Ordinary Time

1Kings 17:10 - 16

Hebrews 9:24 - 28

Mark 12:38 - 44

Many of us are familiar with today's Gospel story, commonly known as the Widow's Mite. The mite or lepton was the smallest and least valuable coin in Jesus' time. The widow's offering reflects both her financial situation and her social plight. Without husband, a widow in a patriarchal society is often vulnerable and destitute (rf Ru 1:21, Lam 1:1). Together with the orphans and the landless immigrants, widows frequently represent the poorest of the poor in the Jewish society (Jb 24:4, Is 10:2).

Throughout the Old Testament, God often commands the nation of Israel to care for widows. He will defend, protect and uphold them (rf Ex 22:23, Dt 16:11-14, Ps 68:5, 146). He will curse those who abuse the widows and bless those who look after them (rf Dt 27:19, Is 1:17-18, Jer 22:3-4). In fact, the measure by which a ruler in Israel is to be judged is whether the powerless ones like the widows are cared for (rf Ps 72:4, Jer 22:16). In the New Testament, Anna, a widow and a prophetess, was granted the privilege of seeing the Messiah when the infant Jesus was presented in the temple (rf Lk 2:36-38). Jesus raised from the dead the son of the widow of Nain and returned him to his mother, and He Himself cared for His widowed mother when He was on the cross by entrusting her to the Beloved Disciple (rf Lk.7:11-17, Jn 19:25-27). We read in the Gospel today that Jesus condemns those who take advantage of widows (rf Mk 12:40).

The early Church cared for widows so much so that seven men of good reputation were selected to be responsible for the matter (rf Acts 6:1-5). They were the first deacons and their first ministry appears to be a ministry to widows. St. James the Apostle says that the care of widows is a sign of true religion, “religion that is pure and undefiled before God and the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world” (Jas 1:27).

Though “widow” connotes poverty and desolation, yet in the early Church, some widows constituted the first form of consecrated life. Historical records show that there are canonized widows who became consecrated religious or even founded religious congregations. Women like St. Bridget of Sweden, St. Rita, St. Elizabeth Seton or our own Canadian saints: St. Marie of the Incarnation, St. Marguerite d'Youville and Blessed Emilie Tavernier Gamelin. Their heroic examples of sacrifices, devotion, charity and unceasing prayers have won them the image as an “altar of God” by the early Fathers (rf Polycarp’s letter to the Philippians, Tertullian's Ad Uxorem, Methodius’ Symposium, the Didascalia Apostolorum). By such metaphor, the Church recognizes the contribution that widows make to the well-being and spiritual growth of the Christian community. Widows are not merely passive recipients of aids but active as a living altar by way of their lives. This movement of giving and receiving assistance between the Church and widows is best reflected in Mary, the mother of Jesus.

Standing beneath the cross, Mary is not only sharing her son's pain, she is also in solidarity with all the biblical widows in their hope of God's deliverance and vindication of their sufferings. In her widowhood, just like her son whose cross has transformed shame and death into glory and life, her weakness and isolation is now transformed into strength and inclusion. So, as John who takes Mary "into his home" and into his kinship, Mary, in her turn, also takes John and with him all humanity, into the eternal kinship with her son (Jn 19:27). Mary, the widow, was also present with the apostles, praying for the Holy Spirit to bring about the birth of the Church on Pentecost (rf Acts 1: 14).

We do not know what happened to the widow afterwards in today's Gospel reading. Would she be as lucky as the widow of Zarephath (First Reading) who received help from the prophet Elijah? Maybe or maybe not; but to the one who “gave from her want, all that she had to live on”, every choice, every decision and every action is a reflection of her total self-giving and trust in the Divine Providence (Mk 12:44). To such soul, immediate material reward is not important anymore. Obviously, we now find ourselves in a very different situation than those in the biblical time or in the early church period. Yet this holy widow, being immortalized by our Lord, is more than an example of generosity. She illuminates the fundamental respect for women, disregarding their state in life or their societal status. The treatment of these women is a challenge for Christians to demonstrate their love and true devotion to Christ.